During the past three and a half years I’ve been the lucky (?) recipient of a great deal of unsolicited advice. I’ve also picked up the odd useful tip or two myself. I’ll be using this page to share some of the things that worked for us, and some that didn’t. Feel free to read, or ignore!
Watch this space!
Ha ha me too! Strangers are particularly fond of telling me how tiny my baby is for her age (9mths). She’s not – she’s between 25th and 50th percentile and has big chubby thighs – but they always go “ooh, she can’t be normal! she’s so very tiny”. I’m like….err thanks? Love the blog, keep going!
That people say things like that never ceases to astound me! What is wrong with these people? I wish I had a polite but firm retort for them! Will have to think one up! Thanks for your comment! X
I had PND for 5 years. It totally changed my life. Now almost 10 years on I look back and say “well done, your are still standing.. That was tough” It leaves you scarred, with damaged relationships especially with the child that came before it. I recommend Liz Wise for councelling, and she has written a book and produced a video. She is the UK’s leading expert on PND and has had it herself. She literally saved my life. Google her.
It’s so hard, as a parent though isn’t it? I’m always desperate to spout random stuff at people without checking whether they want them or not. I think it’s the need in me to shout that I’ve survived something as epic as parenting! 😉
Advice is good, however, I think it’s always best to take with a pinch of salt. I believe my mum was very good with advice, although she did say ” you can try this” but didn’t hassle me into doing something I didn’t want to do with my baby. I think whatever works best for you and your child stick to it, but every child is different, what works for one might not work for someone else’s baby. Most of the time the people giving the advice haven’t got children themselves so got to ignore the ones who think they ‘know-it-all’!